Reasons Why Men Don’t Listen When Women Talk

So you are there having a conversation with your man or so you think, but you just realize that you are actually having a conversation with yourself, as he’s just not listening.

Women tend to believe that their partners should listen to them like their girlfriends do, but this is not the case. Not because men don’t want to, but because they respond to different cues than women are programmed to provide.

The reasons why men don’t listen

1: You expect him to agree with you.

If your man thinks you just want him to agree with you, he won't have any incentive to listen. Accept that sometimes, you just won’t share the same opinion. Women tend to think that agreement is a show of support.

2: You get bogged down in the details.
Men are more interested in getting to the point, so do not spend time trying to give details of what you are going through

You might be five minutes into a story before you ask him a relevant question. For some men, that’s too long.

3: You’re trying too hard to impress him.

A guy doesn’t want to have to compete with you too, so don’t woo them with your accomplishments. Men need to feel like they’re providing. Therefore, they are not going to be listening if we talk about the stuff you do.

4: He’s doing something else.
When a man is in his “me time”, such as watching the game or trying to finish an email, don’t start talking.

Men are not good at verbal multitasking as women are – and there are times when he wants to keep his mental focus on something else. Make sure he’s ready to listen before you start talking

5: You forget to use your “pause” button

While men view conversation as a means to an end, some women (not all) just like to talk, and can go on and on without pausing. In this scenario a man will just shout down.

6: Your emotions are running high.
Don’t go venting about problems with your girlfriends with your guy; this is a very scary situation for him, as he doesn’t know how to solve the problem. He doesn’t know how to calm you down or give you advice. He can barely even follow your train of thought

7: You expect him to be interested in everything you’re interested in

He’s into beer, football and basketball. You’re rambling on about wine, "Housewives of Atlanta" and Rihanna. He yawns and doesn’t bother to suppress it.

8: He can’t keep up

You started out on one subject matter, and then you switch to another then another and so on. Along the way, you’ve lost your guy. For him, it’s like tracking a mouse in a maze – unnerving and exhausting.

Men’s brains tend to be single-focused; therefore almost everything is an interruption

9: He feels like he’s being nagged.
You don’t think of yourself as a broken record. But when your guy keeps leaving the toilet seat down and you remind each time to close it, he feels like you are nagging him.

Remember men and women are from different planets