homeBy:Shanteeca Reid
If you are a guy, at some point or another in life you would find yourself telling your girlfriend to stop listening to her friends when it comes on to your relationship. Most females tend to have a group of friends that they tend to confide in about their relationship. A survey was done and according to the results 60% of people (men and women) end their relationships after the intervention of their friends and their opinions and on the flip side, how many of us have fallen victims to the friends of someone who we really liked. Do our friends determine who we date and love? Are their opinions really that important to our decisions, are they?
Some people believe that friends should be kept out of the relationship to a certain extent. Only two persons enter into a relationship so why does the influence of a third party; who by the way normally views the relationship from one person’s perception or from an outside point of view. Though rare there are the cases where the friends are the ones that push away the partners as they don't get along and often one ends up leaving your life . In this cases it is usually a battle for your attention ,with all these facts into perspective , are our friends jealous to a point where they find it hard to share us with anyone or are they just very protective of us? A popular phrase which states that "good friends are better than pocket money" denotes that true friends will always be there and this will always leave you thinking about who is more important to you ,"a friend" or "a partner"? Contrary to what some people believe a friendship just as an intimate partner is still a relationship; and relationships do break down. Relationships in general don't always last forever and interestingly, once you date someone, they, first an foremost become a form of friend. According to the Bible (King James version), a man should take a wife and forsake all others , using the term wife loosely . A partner is in the running of becoming a wife or husband; so, wouldn't and shouldn't their opinion matter to an extent? Based on the interpretation of the bible 'wouldn't they come first?'
If both relationships have the ability to come to an end , why should one affect the other or prevent the other from existing? In the cases where one uses time as a factor , no doubt you may have known your friends for years and that's probably great ,but who knows us better eventually? One particular observation showed that as an intimate relationship progresses ,both partners grow closer together , especially with the institution of marriage in place . Hence a partner normally knows us better than a friend in a shorter space of time , however this is arguable wrong or right !
If our relationships with our partners and friends get complicated when they collide , maybe we should keep them away from each other on separate planes , and allow each an equal chance to thrive without external influences and opinions .
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