Can your ex be your friend?

Can my ex be my platonic friend?
By : Shanteeca Reid


When two people enter into a relationship, they make a decision mutually to be with each other and they plan to grow with each other getting as close as possible, with the aid of intimacy that is, but when a relationship fails or come to an end, can those two persons be platonic friends?

To the best of my knowledge that seems like really hard to do and both individuals are particularly never really gonna be over each other, as there will always be memories to reminisce about as well as things. And feelings to hold onto.

How close one go from loving someone or being in love with someone to possible seeing them without you or even worse; with someone else?   How do you sit across from them without thinking about what it should, could or would have been like with your former lover?

In some cases the individuals grow apart and both come to a mutual agreement that the relationship should be terminated. When this happens, then, there can be form of friendship; not a close one but a simply one. This rarely happens as it as more nature approach and takes two people to make such a decision. And with that said it easy to point out as well that it takes two very mature individuals to have a "friendship" after a romance affair.

A friendship between two ex-lovers without the games of flaunting and jealousy in play is very hard to come by, especially as the part of females where it crucial for your ex to see you in the light of the "best thing he ever had that that got away" and sometimes even to wow his new lady as well. All in all though for friendship after a relationship it all comes down to the nature of the break up or the split. A pre-mature break up has no real end as there is always something more to say.  Until a relationship is exhausted and both individuals see where it will not work there can be no end and if the relationship is never truly over, then a platonic friendship that is "Genuine" cannot exist.

Another important aspect to this friendship would definitely be self assurance, acceptance and emotional security as this seems to be the only way that one will see an ex and not think to himself or herself " that should have been me".

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